Pause

Posted: 31st March 2012 by Duality in What's Happening

Sorry its been awhile since I’ve posted anything, just hasn’t been a lot to write about.  Grace was a bit bad and let her therapy sessions lapse for a couple of months and the net result of that was me pushing the pause button on most of what we’re doing.  She had too much build up and started to get overwhelmed.  One of the biggest adjustments for me, with her, has been the understanding that I can’t “fix” her.  I can support her, be there for her, and generally be what a spouse is supposed to be… but I don’t have the tools necessary to really understand everything that goes on inside her head.  And even if I did, its not my job to do that.  Sometimes you just have to realize your job is to guide them to the people who can do that.  Its sort of like being a doctor and having a kid who needs a shot.  You don’t want to be a doctor for that kid in that moment.  You don’t want them associating that shot with you.  You want to comfort them and be there for them.  Something you can’t do if you’re giving them the shot.  She sees her therapist twice this month, so we should get things heading back in the right direction soon.

Health issues continue for me.  Sleep is becoming a bigger issue again after having a couple of weeks of what passes somewhat close to normal.  So I’ll make an appointment to see the doc again next week.  Still no idea when I’ll get the other hip done.  So more hurry up and wait across the board there.

Hopefully I’ll post something soon-ish about a late night encounter Grace and I had, but wanted to get this update up before another day went by.

  1. Conina says:

    Been waiting on you for quite some time… :)