Posted: 2nd February 2012 by Duality in Scenes, What's Happening

Grace, as I may or may not have mentioned…remember my memory is Swiss cheese, is involved with the local bdsm community.  One of her friends in said community is a female Dom who apparently has a lot of spanking implements.  Grace told me that said friend would be willing to come over and let us sample said items so that we could have a better idea of what worked and what didn’t work for her.  This caused a discussion, as you can well imagine.  Both of us are extremely new to the whole sharing spankings with others type situation.  So for me, the first questions centered on etiquette and the like.  Then I asked about what type of items and how Grace would be dressed.  She really hadn’t considered everything on that topic.

See, one of the items is a flogger.  And while Gracie was focused on how things would feel on her ass, to which she reasoned light shorts being enough modesty while preserving the sting, she hadn’t fully explored the thought of what I would do with the flogger type instruments.  And when I told her that she probably wouldn’t be able to wear a bra, it caused a pause from her.  See, I’m not going to have a flogger in my hand without using it on her breasts.  That simply isn’t going to happen.  But she considered everything and said, “You know what?  Fuck it.  I want to do this”.  Which, I have to admit, made me smile.

Now, understand that the Dom I’m talking about here is a fully trained in etiquette, does seminars on various subjects in the lifestyle, full on Dom.  If she’s coming over to show us these items she’s going to demonstrate their proper use.  Which means allowing someone other then Me to touch My Gracie.  That gave me pause.  I have to admit that I have the male double standard when it comes to these types of things though.  If it was a male we were talking about, I’d be against it.  But because its a female, I’m more okay with it.  I fully admit I’m a hypocrite and I’m okay with that.  It will be a nice test to see how well we play with others and whether attending play parties might be something for us to consider.  I’m not sold on that yet, but if Grace responds well to this encounter it would begin to move my opinion in the other direction.

I’m not sure when this will happen.  We’re going to have lunch with her first just so I can meet her.  See I still haven’t attended a meeting yet, though I’m getting closer to going I think, and I’d rather our first meeting not effectively be “Nice to meet you, would you like to spank my wife now?”.  Call me old fashioned, but I’d at least like to have some sort of baseline with someone before that happens.  Now, just to be clear, we’re only talking spanking and some breast play that will all involve Grace wearing clothes.  Even if the stars align and somehow an article of clothing is removed from Grace so that the instruments hit flesh… that is as far as it goes.  Period.  Though I’m sure the situation will play heavily into some fantasies that I weave for Grace later.  I’m evil that way.