Order Up

Posted: 6th January 2012 by Duality in Dynamics

One of the biggest changes I’ve had to adjust to with this contract is ordering for Grace.  On a purely logical level I understand how much me doing this makes sense and is actually beneficial to us.  Grace…. well she sometimes has a hard time making up her mind on things.  Sometimes in restaurants this can drag out to some uncomfortable encounters with waitresses who have to come back 4 and 5 times to see if we’re ready to order.  So me picking it?  Boom, we’re done.  I know what she likes and what she doesn’t like and I will always say something like, “I’m leaning towards ordering the salmon for you” before we order to gauge her reaction.  So, logically, it makes a lot of sense.

But see, the way I was raised makes this an uncomfortable change for me.  Oh, I’ll smooth it out eventually, but right now its just pure uncomfortable.  In this day and age you just don’t see men ordering for women anymore.  At least not at a place like say a Denny’s or Shari’s.  The waitress last night gave me a hard look and looked at Grace to confirm that what I was doing was okay.  And then I kind of got looks from her the rest of the night.  Grace, of course, was oblivious to this.  She was just reveling in having me take charge.  Eventually the old Southern attributes I got drilled into my head will make allowances for this, especially since there was a day in age where me ordering for Grace wouldn’t be so out of place.  Its just going to take some getting used to.

It was a good dinner though and I picked the right things for her.  Well, maybe.  Grace got a tad sick shortly after we got home.  I’m hoping it was building anyway and not something I picked out for her that made her sick.  But the time in the restaurant was nice.

  1. lunaKM says:

    Hehe, I always get odd looks because as a service to KM I am to order his food and beverage and interact with the service personnel. He tells me what I am to order and I am to make sure that it’s ordered to his preferences. It also throws them off because I order his food first (that whole ladies first thing doesn’t work for me). Some get it right away and others continue to direct their questions to him. They get a bonus tip if they learn quick :) Even more if they then return and continue to direct comments to me instead of KM.

  2. Vanille says:

    I’m always throwing off waitstaff with being ordered for. We just say I’m having a bad social anxiety day (which isn’t too far from the truth.) and we get by fine. -^^-