Archive for October, 2011

Not Sure How To Fix This

Posted: 21st October 2011 by Duality in Dynamics, What's Happening

No, I haven’t screwed up.  All you women out there quit looking at me like that!  Sheesh.  What needs to be fixed is more about different things coming to a head all at roughly the same time.  Lemme explain.  

Boundary Issue

Posted: 19th October 2011 by Duality in Dynamics, Energy

Yesterday I decided to initiate a little playtime with Grace.  In retrospect it wasn’t the best of ideas.  I wasn’t feeling all that hot and Grace has had a couple of rough days between shuttling me to appointments as well as appointments and errands for her father.  Nothing bad came out of this, don’t get [...]

Duality of Fear

Posted: 19th October 2011 by Duality in Dynamics, Energy

Fear is interesting to me.  It wasn’t always so, but seeing how turned on Grace can be if you add in just the right amount of fear has made me reexamine it quite a bit.  Its not easy to get the mix right with fear, though I imagine Grace probably feels that its easy for [...]

Not My First Rodeo

Posted: 18th October 2011 by Duality in Dynamics, What's Happening

I didn’t sleep last night which, at this point, is becoming less and less of a surprise.  What truly sucked about it was the fact that I had my hip replacement orientation today so I wasn’t at all clear headed for it.  Which makes twice in a row that’s happened to me.  This time, honestly, [...]

Homemade Yogurt

Posted: 17th October 2011 by Duality in What's Happening

I tried out this yogurt recipe using a crockpot and it turned out quite well, even using soy milk.  I even used vanilla soy milk with some vanilla yogurt I got at the store as the starter so it has a nice hint of vanilla taste to it…once you add some sweetener.  I used some generic [...]

Hotel Stories #3 (Crisis Management)

Posted: 17th October 2011 by Duality in Hotel Stories

Not all of my tales from behind the hotel desk are funny.  When you get to the point of having a police department at your hotel due to domestic violence that you are on a first name basis with the officers on the night shift, well there’s only so much humor you can squeeze out [...]

Crafting The Contract

Posted: 16th October 2011 by Duality in Dynamics

There is a comfort level that exists between Grace and I.  We know each other so well that we can finish each other’s sentences… which comes in handy when my brain decides to forget words.  And I know where her hard and soft limits are.  So crafting a contract that somehow doesn’t tread all over all [...]

Collaring Approacheth

Posted: 15th October 2011 by Duality in Dynamics

Grace has been out of commission from her tasks this week, though she has taken it upon herself to do some chores without reward off and on.  She vacuumed, swiftered the kitchen, and did a good chunk of the laundry.  I’m pretty sure this has all been her way of rewarding my decision to allow [...]

No Win Scenarios

Posted: 14th October 2011 by Duality in Dynamics, History

A year ago, Grace did something that was a breach of trust.  I won’t say what only to say it wasn’t adultery just so that base is covered.  There came a point very early in the healing process where I could not let go of my anger.  I knew I had to, I knew it [...]

Dealing With The Nice Guy

Posted: 13th October 2011 by Duality in Dynamics

So I read a blog post by Corina about dealing with “vanilla” husbands when you are a submissive.  I really like reading her stuff as I can see a bit of myself in her husband from time to time.  That nice guy mentality clashing with the needs of a submissive.  Seeing as Corina got the [...]