Archive for August, 2011

Note on Grace’s reward

Posted: 24th August 2011 by Duality in History, warm fuzzies

In Grace’s post today she refers to me giving her a “Get out of trouble free” card.  I figure I should briefly cover that.

The day I metaphorically died

Posted: 24th August 2011 by Duality in History

I go September 15th to talk to the surgeon about setting up my hip replacements.  I’m hoping to get both hips at the same time.  From everything I’ve read that won’t be anywhere near as difficult as having both knees done at the same time.  And as I’ve already knocked that particular operation out, one [...]

Here’s the deal…

Posted: 24th August 2011 by Duality in Bargaining

Okay body, here’s my offer.  You let me do the heavy lifting today of moving two queen size beds and assorted other bedroom furniture and tomorrow I’ll lay in bed in agony.   What’s that?  Oh.  Until you say so?  Well, I do need to move these things.  Fine.  I’ll take your crappy deal and be [...]

Communication

Posted: 23rd August 2011 by Duality in Dynamics, History

One of the toughest things for a Dom and sub to figure out is an appropriate line of communication.  Before, during, and after a scene especially.  Safe words are also included into that mix because they are very much about the sub communicating their distress to their Dom.

Gagged

Posted: 22nd August 2011 by Duality in History, Scenes

There’s something wildly erotic to me about a woman who is gagged.  What she’s gagged with doesn’t really matter to me.  It could be a ball gag, a rag, dirty underwear, or my cock.  So long as the only sound that comes out is muffled grunts, whimpers, and moans I’m a happy camper.

Memory Issues

Posted: 21st August 2011 by Duality in Dynamics, History

So Grace had a post today in which she references a session she and I had two days ago.  In it she is suitably vague over what exactly she was punished over.  Bet it left you wondering what she was talking about.  Join the club.  

Kinky Webcomics

Posted: 21st August 2011 by Duality in Uncategorized

Just a quick post to share some webcomics that either are based somehow on a kinky lifestyle or are just plain naughty.

The mix is wrong

Posted: 20th August 2011 by Duality in Dynamics, Energy

When you are a Dom, control is everything.  It is your will over your sub that dictates what occurs in any given scene.  But beyond that is the control over yourself.  Whatever head space you need to be in to Dom needs to be somewhat consistent.  When its off, it causes you to be off [...]

Real Punishment

Posted: 20th August 2011 by Duality in History, Pain, Scenes

When you’re dealing with a sub you have “punishment” and Punishment.  The “punishment” usually gets the sub off and is part of a scene.  Its that daily need a sub like Grace feels to have her body punished in some way.  That type is enjoyable.  But Punishment with the capital “P” is something all together [...]

The currency of trust

Posted: 19th August 2011 by Duality in Dynamics, History, Scenes

The single biggest factor that drew me to this lifestyle was the large amount of trust involved.  Having gone through a very bad marriage where trust just sort of deteriorated and died, trust became an important thing for me to look for.  Lets face it, if you and your partner do not trust one another, [...]